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“My family was more open initially than hers, even though we had all known each other.
The only way I can put it is, African Americans in America are at the bottom.” Mark dated all kinds of women, but said he “always had a thing for Asian women.
An Analysis of Desire While the number of such actual couples remains small (an unknown but undoubtedly tiny portion of the 2 percent of residents in interracial marriages), there does appear to be a dramatic growth among daters in particular places.
Particular neighborhoods in Brooklyn and Los Angeles seem to have become havens for Black men seeking Asian women and vice versa. Greene, Brooklyn, a Japanese friend was approached by an Asian woman walking with her baby stroller. She was searching for potential members of a group for kids with a Black father and Asian mother. Darrell Hamamoto, professor of Asian American studies at the University of California–Davis, believes it is rooted in prevailing stereotypes stemming from Black men’s military experiences in Asia.
“I’m not sure that African-American men have been involved in sexual relationships with Asian women in that context any more than white men; it’s just that when African-American men are doing it, it gets noticed more,”said Ross.
That doesn’t mean, however, that stereotypes don’t come into play.
It seems likely that the increase in this kind of dating owes more to demographics than anything else, and such couples continue to face challenges.
And Asians look up to Blacks as the standard-bearers for civil rights activism.These men see Asian women as subjects of the American—and, by implication, their own—empire.“This trend is rooted with American colonialism and occupation.It’s just a personal preference.” Hamamoto’s theory would suggest that such a preference was grounded in a sexual stereotype of submissive Asian women. My Asian girlfriends and I spent our college years snottily rejecting the few white men who came around as “rice lovers.” While I did experience an American man mentioning the Kama Sutra within five minutes of meeting me recently in New York, my adolescent self- image was much closer to nerd than slut.To see all these Asian women who might also have been high-school nerds paired up with the most sexualized actors in American culture has been, I will admit it, a thrill.